Gary Vee Daily #001 – Go Get Yours
I often watch the Gary Vaynerchuk videos and go: “Yep. Very true. That works, and everything did change for me when I developed a process for true daily gratitude in my life, letting go of negativity, turned my suicidal mindset around, etc.”
How?
The question often is however, how do you let go of deeply ingrained negativity. How do you move into the place of true gratitude even on the days where life sucks? How do you turn your mindset around when it seems hellbent on working against you?
I sometimes comment on the posts and agree, and I’ve had the idea several times that it would be useful to not just affirm what Gary Vee is saying, to actually tell people how to do what he’s saying given it has been my life’s work for the past 18 years at the time of writing this Blog.
So, this is the Gary Vee Daily How Number 1!
I’m not going to write a Blog every day. I will however when I’ve got time and the mood strikes choose a topic from his Daily Vee video series and expand upon one of the suggestions made. Today I’m focusing on the line:
“It is very likely your mum or dad screwed you up, they made you insecure, didn’t love you enough, they told you you weren’t good because they weren’t good and misery loves company.”
Gary goes on to say:
“Until you face that demon. Once you cut out negativity . . . . . Don’t confused with delusion. Don’t just watch my videos and ra ra up and don’t put any work in. Nothing good’s gonna happen. You have to take action . . . . I know people who grew up in Alcoholic households. I know people who were molested. Nobody cares.”
You can watch his Facebook video here: https://www.facebook.com/gary/videos/705638329790839/
My Nobody Cares Story
In a nutshell just to put into context the suggestions and ideas for mentally turning things around and letting go to the ‘you’re not good enough’ limiting belief, here is the very potted version of some of my backstory.
I was sexually abused on a very regular basis from age 7-17. I also had a parent who seemed to take joy in beating me on a regular basis. I was painfully quiet and shy growing up; most likely in part due to the abuse, and had pretty much zero confidence and very low self-esteem right up until age 32. By that point I thought my life was set in stone and I didn’t even know about the mind and the part it could play in changing and TranceForming your life. I had a Business Degree was studying to be a Chartered Accountant at that time so such things were an alien concept to me. By the time I hit my 30’s I was mentally and emotionally drained and needed to sleep 12-15 hours a day just to barely function. In my 20’s I was also diagnosed with what was thought to be early onset Alzheimer’s so I think you get the picture that I didn’t have a perfect or silver spoon start in life.
Fast forward to now and I’ve been a Coach, Therapist and Trainer since October 2000 and also teach PhotoReading™ and Accelerated Learning. One of the things even complete strangers comment on straight off the bat is my amazing energy, my super sharp mind, and my ability to walk in, cut through the crap, see the patterns, and sort things out in record time.
When I share my story from stage one of the first thing I hear most is: “WOW! I would never have guessed. I can’t believe it” and that for me speaks volumes about the power of personal development, changing your mindset, and letting go.
What are Limiting Beliefs?
It’s funny that Gary should mention the ‘you’re not good’ belief because when I stumbled into my first full on personal development workshop 18 years ago the limiting beliefs that most resonated with me and those that defined and blocked my progress in life were: “I’m not good enough” and “I’m not worthy.”
Just think about it for a moment. If you are constantly running those beliefs in the background and they are the filter through which you see the world, those little suckers have the ability to creep up and stop and block everything you do. Mine manifested in daily life as insecurity, fear, lack of confidence, second guessing myself, worry about what other people thought about me, and constantly asking myself the question: “Who am I to do xyz.”
It’s debilitating stuff. And what makes it really tricky is that you’re often not even aware of it. The beliefs just insidiously run in the background, rising up as soon as you near the point of getting ready to take a chance and step outside your comfort zone. They do pretty much what it says on the tin. They limit you.
Here’s What I Did to Resolve Them
In each of these Blogs I am going to summarise what I did to resolve the issue in question either for myself or my clients.
- Identify the limiting beliefs. In my case it took the help of a Therapist because people weren’t really having the open conversations we do today so you may have already figured it out just from what you’ve seen and read. Don’t just go with the first thing that sort of sounds right, really get to the root cause.
- Do the work. I did a Breakthrough Session which was a mix of NLP, Hypnosis, Timeline Therapy and Huna. Nowadays there are a million and one therapeutic interventions out there and I am trained in a fair few of them. Find one that resonates and also provides a point of challenge.
- If I were singling out just one, Timeline Therapy is great for handling limiting beliefs. The premise is that (in your mind) you go back to the root cause of the situation, get what you need to learn (hindsight is a beautiful thing), pull that out of your mind, energy field, and psyche, and install something new that supports and empowers you.
- Install a new belief. Put new habits and strategies in place. For want of a better term this is where you a basically reprogramming your mind. Both the NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Hypnosis is fantastic for doing this, and as per point 2 above, there are now a myriad of interventions to choose from.
- Future pace. Once you have a new mental and emotional foundation in place decide where you go from here. Don’t just leave things to chance. Either focus on a plan or at least set a clear intention and purpose.
Pretty much overnight I went from being too shy to even properly talk to my own family, to standing on stage in front of hundreds and then thousands of people and loving it. A bit like Gary Vaynerchuk, I thrive on the energy of that vibe to this day. (I’m in the pink top on stage).
What’s Coming Up?
This will be a rolling roadmap depending upon which Gary Vee videos I happen to watch however a few to definitely look out for are:
Team Optimism or Pessimism – Using the Power of NeuroSuccess™ to Change Your Brain
Gratitude – How to Create True Daily Gratitude in Just 5-10 Minutes a Day. If you want a head start on this one I created a Free 5-Day Intro Course: https://mailchi.mp/tranceformationstm.com/the-magic-free-5-day-intro-course
Self Awareness – I’ll share some of the insights and Exercises I created for my Membership Group on deep yet simple ways to get into that.
Childhood Molestation – This one is an ongoing subject for me in the light of the Me Too movement so if you have a story to share I would love to hear from you because I am going to be looking at where people are at globally and designing something that I call #AfterMeToo because it is most definitely a journey. You can complete the anonymous survey here: https://marilyndevonish.responsesuite.com/q/aftermetoo
Confidence – How to “go take yours.”
The Law of Attraction – I agree yes and but . . . .
Gary closed this particular video with his answer to everything which is: “And what now?”
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Thank you for reading and I’ll catch you next time.
Marilyn Devonish
The NeuroSuccess™ Coach