HOW TO TURN YOUR WORST TIMES INTO YOUR BEST
Below is an extract from my Free Monthly eNewsletter. This month the focus was on how to create the best of times from the worst of times, and some of the stages and processes involved in doing that. Enjoy!
Inspired by The Magic, this month’s Coaching Corner focuses on the issue of thanks and gratitude.
I was sharing with a client a few weeks ago how some of my worst moments became my best. At the time, if someone had walked up and said that I would be thankful and grateful for those moments, I think I might have quite cheerfully punched their lights out!
Hindsight however has proven that to be the case. These worst moments have included being cheated on by a partner, losing a job, missing out on what seemed like a perfect opportunity, and wasting money on ill conceived courses.
So what is required to make the best of a bad situation?
This is just my view and everyone will have their own opinion, ideas and perspective because life is all about perspective. I have found the following to be important ingredients in the mix:
Allow the dust to settle
Many people try to figure out the significance and meaning of an event in the moment. Allowing time for the plot to be revealed and the pieces to fall into place can be enlightening. As the late Steve Jobs famously said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forwards.” (That may take a moment to think about!).
Take a step back
Whether that step is physical or mental, it often helps to get out of the situation. Like trying to sweep up while being in the eye of a storm will be neigh on impossible, being in the thick of whatever is going on allows no room or space for recovery.
Get a new perspective
A little like stepping back, it can help to view the situation from a different perspective. If there is someone else involved in your drama, view it from their point of view or ask what an objective bystander would make of it all.
Take your part
They say that it takes two to tango. No matter how right you think you might be, it is still worth asking “If I played a part in this, no matter how small, what might that part be?”
Get off the hamsters wheel
Also explore what you could learn from the situation, the learning of which will allow you to get a different or better result should the same or similar situation occur in the future. This helps to avoid the trap of repeating the same old mistakes over and over again.
Eventually look for the silver lining
The amount of time that needs to pass will be different for everyone. When I am working with clients it can just be a couple of hours. For people working through things on their own it may take several months or even years. Whatever the time frame is for you, spend some time looking at the good things that have come about, and how they might be linked back to whatever that worst moment happened to be.
ABOUT MARILYN DEVONISH
Marilyn Devonish is a TranceFormational™ Change Coach, Freelance Magazine Writer, Corporate Trainer, and PhotoReading™ & Accelerated Learning Instructor. She combines a unique blend of business and esoteric skills to create a truly transformational change experience.
Marilyn is a Certified Trainer of NLP, Certified Trainer of Hypnosis, Certified Trainer of Time Line Therapy, Certified PhotoReading Instructor. She is also a Certified Practitioner of EFT, EmoTrance, DNA Theta Healing, Hawaiian Huna, Quantum Touch, Energetic NLP, Access Consciousness, and Archetypal Profiling.
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