THAT LIFE CHANGING MOMENT . . . . . .
What does it take to have one of those life changing moments of realisation, what I call in PhotoReading™ terms the-ha or light bulb moment?
That light bulb, in amongst all the other stuff, that once illuminated often can’t be ignored (have you spotted it in the photograph above yet?)
What does it take for the course of your life, your mind, or your thinking to change, make an abrupt about turn, or even go in a whole new direction?
People often think that it takes something BIG. A real humdinger of a life shaker. Some, ‘the sky is falling down’ event, often negative, to have you wake up and smell the coffee of your life.
Sometimes however those life changing moments come in a series of small progressive realisations, like the unfolding of intertwined threads. It could just be a moment where you sit and look at a situation, suddenly through different eyes. A moment where that voice in your head, that voice that is there to nurture you and has your best interests at heart chimes in seemingly out of nowhere and says: “You can’t carry on like this. You can no longer live like this. Are you really going to allow this to continue? Is that what you REALLY want? What are you waiting for?”
It could be one of a million questions or realisations depending upon where your life is at in this moment.
When I was growing up there was a game called Buckaroo where a bucking horse sat on a central platform.
Each player had a series of items that could be placed on the back of the spring-loaded plastic animal and whoever got rid of most of their items without making the horse buck was the winner.
Life is sometimes like that. You can have a whole load of stuff loaded on your back, on your shoulders, weighted on your mind, and then ‘suddenly’ (as I am sure you are aware, if you take the time to backtrack it is rarely sudden), but suddenly, a small, tiny, insignificant thing sets off a whole chain of events or is the catalyst for a major decision. As they used to say, the straw that broke the camel’s back.
I just woke up looked around my bedroom and had one of those “How much longer are you going to continue to live like this?” moments. I look around my bedroom every day, but today, something was different. Nothing had happened between going to bed and waking up. I opened my eyes as I do every morning, sat up in bed, looked around the room, and that was it. But something, maybe a million things, culminated in that being ‘the’ moment. In that being the realisation. In that being another game changer.
Because it is not accompanied by thunder and lightning bolts people often sweep those small questions under the carpet or suppress them back into the inner recesses of their mind. But those thoughts, those feelings, those cries for some kind of release don’t necessarily go away. They sit there waiting, lurking, like the Jack-In-The-Box for that moment where things seem to be going well, that moment things seem to be going right, that moment where you can finally allow yourself to relax and then BOOM BANG BOSH, they spring out of the box like an unwanted smell at a party.
Why is that? One of the things that I explain to my Coaching and Therapy clients is that the mind and body and neurology will often only give you what you can handle, so if the suppressed feelings would literally take you over the edge, they’ll wait. They’ll wait until you are feeling more stable. They’ll wait until you have yourself a bit more together, they’ll wait until you have the right level of support around you, and then they will give.
And that is when it seems as though life has crashed with epic proportion.
I don’t know that you always have to wait for the metaphorical big crash, or that you have to wait until everything has fallen apart before it comes back together. Every once in a while hear the whisper and maybe head a few things off at the pass.
Now let me add one proviso. I also believe in some respects that what will be will be, and sometimes in the grand scheme of life, the seeming disaster, a death, the messy break up, being fired, the loosing of everything, if those things hadn’t of happened your life wouldn’t be on the road to realisation that it is today.
So whatever has gotten you to the point of realisation, embrace it. Be grateful for it (this is, I might add, much easier to do with the gift of hindsight), and then, regardless of what has happened, why it has happened, or how it has happened, simply ask:
What now?
How do I build on this?
What did I learn?
Where do I go from here?
And then, having taken the appropriate amount of time to gather yourself and your thoughts, take steps, even if that is just one small or tiny step at a time. Ten small steps are still more progress than no steps at all because you are waiting for the right or perfect time.
Sometimes we don’t know until after the fact where a particular step or course of action might lead, so I also trust and ask my intuition the answers to the questions above. I might then just move forwards on the basis of that, at other times I do my research and formulate a plan.
The past is done. The future is in many respects unwritten, so be in the moment of now, and go from there.
Here’s to all of the moments that make up the rich tapestry of this thing that we call life.
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Thank You.
Marilyn x
ABOUT MARILYN DEVONISH
Marilyn Devonish is a TranceFormational Change Coach, Therapist, Freelance Magazine Writer, and Corporate Trainer, and Keynote Speaker.
She is a Certified Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP, Hypnosis, and Time Line Therapy. She is also a Certified PhotoReading Instructor, and Practitioner of Hawaiian Huna, DNA Theta Healing, EFT, EmoTrance, Positive EFT, Reiki, Archetypal Profiling, Access Consciousness, Access Bars, and Soul Plan Reading.
Her big life changing moment came when she decided to give up her Accountancy studies to become a Hypnotherapist instead in December 2000, and the life changing realisations have continued to unfold to this day.
Marilyn’s new TranceFormation™ Programme pre-launches in January 2014.
Marilyn Devonish
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