“What the hell was I thinking?”
I have just been reminded that you can’t dictate to your mind what you think and feel. Telling myself a few weeks ago who I can (and more to the point can’t fancy), and then a few sessions in gleefully telling my coach that the person in question was, almost in Michael Jackson style, ‘out of my mind’ (OK, his song was she’s out of my life but you get my drift, anyway, I digress).
I heard myself speaking to a client today and suggesting that in matters of the heart they might want to relax, let go, and go with the flow allowing what will unfold to do so without trying to play it like a game of chess where they control every single move and piece of the puzzle.
Just as I had been explaining to my client a few hours earlier, and also I suspect, just for the fun of it, my mind hit me like an avalanche today to remind me that to try and control one’s emotions is probably pure folly. Almost laughable in fact.
Clear out the old emotional baggage so that it doesn’t seep into now and poison the present and taint the future, definitely yes. To try and deny what you are thinking and feeling in the moment and shift it along like last weeks old rubbish, I’d say definitely no.
The Poet, Writer, and WordSmith Maya Angelou put it beautifully this morning:
“Love liberates, it doesn’t bind. I love you if you are across town. I love you if you are in China. I would prefer to have you here whispering in my ear but I love you. Love doesn’t bind, the binding is the ego. Love liberates” Maya Angelou on Oprah Winfrey‘s Life Master Class. The binding, the trying to control, it’s all seems like a man made fabrication, usually born of some kind of fear.
So, I am off to sit with and embrace whatever is going on such that I can move into a place of flow with it. In the words of Oasis, “You’ve gotta roll with it, you gotta take your time, you’ve gotta say what you say.”